Deon Barnard

Pap, for those of you from America and Europe wondering what I’m on about, is a traditional South African staple food. If prepared correctly it tastes great and leaves you with a feeling of being “filled up” and satisfied. You will usually find pap served at a braai (barbeque) with a tomato relish or a chilli vegetable relish called “chakalaka”.

Pap is simply finely ground maize meal (mieliemeal) cooked with water to form a stodgy white malleable mixture that resembles mashed potato. Pap cuts across all racial and cultural boundaries. Traditionally it has been a staple of many black African cultures forever, but the white boer settlers of the 19th century adopted the recipe as their own, adding their own unique interpretation to the cooking process. Having had many years of experience with pap, both in black as well as white communities I have been perfecting my pap-making skills over the past 15 years or so. There are few people who don’t come back for seconds of my special sweetcorn pap recipe. It borders on world-famous.

Having kept this recipe a secret for years I think its time to share it with the world… so here it is. This is how you make pap better than a black man!

Ingredients:

First, you will need to buy a bag of white, grade A maize meal (mieliemeal). I suggest a 2.5 kg bag (you will use about half of this). You will need a large pot, half filled with water and two or three cans of sweetcorn (creamed corn). For the relish you need to get your hands on two cans of tomato and onion mix and one can of mild chakalaka. You can chop tomotoes, onions and vegies if you like, but the cans work just as well. You will also need some soy sauce, braai salt and garlic for flavour. You will also need salt and a large wooden spoon (more like a small branch – I have broken many flimsy wooden spoons making pap).

Preparation:

Bring the pot of water to boil with two teaspoons of salt (at least). Once the water is boiling you need to get the sack of maize meal into one hand and the wooden spoon into the other. Then turn the water down to low (setting 2) and immediately start pouring the maize meal into the hot water while stirring vigorously. Keep doing both until the pap takes on a thick, hard-to-stir consistency (warning, you will need strong wrists and some elbow grease to do this). Then put the bag of maize down and stir your pap firmly ensuring a consistent texture throughout the pot. put the lid on and leave for about 20 minutes on low (very low – don’t burn it). After 20 minutes empty two or three cans of sweetcorn into the pap, juice and all, and stir the whole lot in until you have consistency again. Then put the lid back on for another hour or two (on low heat) stirring every 30 minutes or so. If it needs more salt, go ahead and add.

10 minutes before serving, throw the relish together. Throw the cans of tomato, onion and chakalaka into a saucepan and heat. Throw in some soy sauce and braai salt for flavour. I often add other things to the sauce like baby marrows, garlic and a splash of balsamic vinegar or Worcestershire sauce.

That’s it. Plant a blob of pap on a plate and cover in relish. Yummy!!!!!

This article has made me hungry – think I’ll go make some pap.

Religion is a mystical, manipulative and brain deadening system designed to control the weak and gullible majority for the benefit of a few hypocritical ‘leaders’ who decide all the rules. Yes, I am very passionate about this topic! Organized religion has been responsible for more carnage, hatred, war and bloodshed in the last 6000 years of our history that any other causes or motivation. Sure, it could be argued that some religious wars were really about money, territory or power; but ultimately those are the benefits of religion anyway, so the causes are interchangeable. The ‘macro’ evidence of wars, crusades and inquisitions speak for themselves, but often we overlook the ‘micro’ consequences that occur in the lives of individual adherents of organised religions; billions of hapless individuals who have had, to some degree, their free will replaced with unquestioning submission to a set of rules and regulations stipulated by a holy man or holy book; their time wasted with meaningless activities aimed at keeping the sheep in line; and their money and personal resources milked for a ridiculous cause that nobody is allowed to question.

I, like millions of others in my country was raised on church. ‘Christened’ in an Anglican church, ‘confirmed’ in a Methodist church and ‘baptised’ in the middle of Africa somewhere. I went to ‘Sunday School’ where I learned all the biblical stories and was told “it’s all true”. If I questioned anything I got some lame explanation like, “the bible says so” or, “don’t worry about that now – one day you’ll understand” or, “just pray about and the Holy Spirit will reveal the answer”. I started to believe, like so many others, that the less logical a thing was and the more I just believed what I was told ‘by faith’ and not evidence, the more I pleased God and the greater my ‘chances of getting into heaven’. I was so taken by the whole concept that I joined a mission organisation and spent the next few years travelling the globe preaching and teaching with the goal to get people everywhere ‘saved’. With each new ‘convert’ I felt I was pleasing God more and securing my position in the church and in heaven. I then joined the staff of a church as a pastor and finally even led a church of my own.

A few years into all this my brain started to rebel. On one hand I was a Christian mercenary trying to get everyone to agree with my view; but the thinking, rational, free part of me was saying “whoah – stop – look – think! What the hell are you doing? This is not what people need.” I started to become aware of what was really taking place in churches all over the world – and not just churches but temples and mosques and synagogues and all the other centres for religious brainwashing. Even more frightening was the fact that I was one of the brainwashers. I was using my public speaking ability and motivational skill to perpetuate a system of control and fear. It took a few years to separate myself from the system, so strong was its hold on me, that when I finally broke free entirely I literally wept for all the damage I had done to people’s lives. Now that I am free to think and be who I really am I am growing as a spiritual being and not stagnating as a blind shepherd. I am growing in love, in joy, in peace, in intimacy, in tolerance and in my awareness of the real truths that operate in the world and the universe at large. I don’t need to know that God (or my pastor) loves me, to love myself. I don’t have to attend arbitrary meetings to feel like I am making good use of my time. I don’t have to ‘go to church’ to feel like I am connecting with God. Nobody can use the threat of hell to convince me to obey anything unquestioningly. I don’t use ‘faith’ as a replacement for logical thought. I have no fear of being rejected by any particular community anymore. The world is my oyster – I’m fearless – I’m free.

Here are some things people need to understand about religion:

1. Religion is based on fear and manipulation

How do you take a bunch of potentially intelligent individuals and get them to believe… mmm… that the Bible is a book written by God over thousands of years using the hands and pens of various human beings, and that its all literally 100% true in every detail, despite the fact that there are multitudes of versions, some which include more chapters than others. Or that currently it is God’s will that one man marry one woman and that he ‘changed his mind’ from the days when he was cool with David and Solomon marrying hundreds of woman. Or that God was cool with slavery in 50AD but he agrees with us now that it’s not so cool anymore. Or that God cares about what you wear to church or how many minutes of ‘quiet time’ you spend with him each day. Or that God can speak to some guy leading a church in… Winklesfontein… but not to directly to you. Oh, the list is endless. Millions of illogical, contradictory superstitions are happily entertained by thinking people everywhere. How? Through fear and manipulation.

Think about it. What would happen if you were to tell your leader that you doubt God’s existence? Either he would laugh and roll his eyes, implying that you must be stupid to think that way (i.e. playing on your low self esteem and need to be accepted); or he would frown and accuse you of blasphemy and warn you not to question God (i.e. playing on your fear of hell or getting into ‘trouble’). Either way there’s little chance of having a rational conversation that involves empirical proof. The church, like any other organisation or business requires finances to thrive. How do they get their finances? They scare people into giving or manipulate them into thinking that tithing is a personal get rich quick scheme. People are told that if they don’t give, the money they keep will be cursed anyway… oh hell, then we’d better give like crazy. How do you get a bunch of people to keep giving and submitting? You gather them together every week for a brain alignment and fear casting session – it’s called church. But no one would willingly attend such insanity if they understood what was happening to them, so the religion uses fear and manipulation to coerce attendance. “If you don’t attend church you will displease God (a really dumb thing to do)”. “Why weren’t you at church on Sunday? God can only help you if you stay warm in the fire of fellowship”. “You know, if you stay away from church you’re really out in the wilderness where the ‘Devil’ can have his way with you”… and so on.

In fact, the “Fear of God” is the foundation of most religions. When your brain is bombarded with a tidal wave of contradictory and improbable notions the best thing you can do (if you want to remain acceptable and included in society) is to stop thinking and just bow down in fear and submission… aaaah, now doesn’t that feel better? Everything will be just fine. See you on Sunday. Don’t forget to smile and bring your bible. We really love you… just don’t disagree with us.

2. Religion kills

As I said earlier, on a macro scale this is easy to see. Millions of Christians and Muslims died in the crusades. Millions of innocent people died at the hands of Roman Catholic inquisitors and Christian emperors and kings. Thousands of Irish and English people died in the cross fire between Protestants and Catholics in Ireland. Many innocent Arabs we’re killed by an expanding Muslim nation under Mohammed. How many have died in India from Hindu/Islamic violence? The closed and fearful doctrines of religion can only lead to intolerance and conflict on a frightening scale. The killing I refer to in the title however is that of the individual human spirit. Religion has for years slowed down the progress of science and human creativity. When Galileo claimed that the earth was not at the centre of the universe, but instead revolved around the sun, he was incarcerated by the church and held prisoner for the rest of his life (they probably would have burned him alive had he not been as well known). Copernicus came up with the ideas before him but didn’t do much with it for fear of being killed for his ideas. The same was true for many mathematicians and scientists of the dark ages. It seems that only when an idea has enough critical mass acceptance does the church start wondering what to do with it – and then someone works out how to take the “new idea” and incorporate it into the current doctrine in such a way that it seems it was always there to begin with.

I have seen hundreds, if not thousands of people desperately trying to gain acceptance from their religious leaders and looking for a platform to be recognised for their unique gifts and talents, only to be turned away, put on the shelf or remoulded into the image of the church until the gift is dead and useless. I have seen capable, strong, talented individuals reduced to mindless cattle obeying every whim and fancy of the system – no longer capable of open, philosophical conversation or common sense. Religion replaces free will with mindless obedience; honesty and openness with fake smiles and insincere intentions; real love with sacrificial duty; passion with subservience; life with paralysis; truth with dogma and mysticism; facts with fiction; stewardship with religious stealing; inspiration with manipulation; joy with fear. I am embarrassed to have ever been part of it, but I am also thankful that I can relate to those who are in it and hopeful that I can point them to freedom. Religion does not make a man greater, it makes him weak. It does not make a man wiser, it makes him dull. It does not point to the truth; it keeps us from pursuing the truth. Religion kills our spirit, weakens our mind and steals our freedom.

3. Religion makes no sense

There are so many contradictory and changing doctrines in the church it’s really quite difficult to keep up. In fact it’s impossible to keep up, which is why the average Christian can turn their brains off and just accept everything they hear as truth. If we don’t actually process anything it’s fairly easy to go with the “God knows everything, I’ll just trust him…Keep it simple,” theory. Why is it that we take some scriptures literally (tithe 10%, fellowship regularly, homosexuals are going to hell) and others we pass off as being ‘historical’ or ‘contextual’ (cover your heads, men and women must sit separately in church, don’t eat unclean animals). The reality is that the leadership of the church will justify whatever it suits them to justify and the people will accept whatever justification is fed to them. If the logic is challenged then people resort to the old classics, “Don’t question God!” or “God told me to do it” or “If you spend more time in prayer God will reveal this truth to you” or “You’re not spiritual enough”. Yowzers! Well if that’s the case then full sail ahead – no more questions from me – no-sir-ee sir – whatever you say.

There are elements of macro evolutionary theory that I don’t buy because there’s no substantial evidence. There are also core foundations of religion that are nothing more than elaborate children stories based on imagination with no substantial evidence. Telling me that I should believe that God exists because there’s a story in a book about someone who chatted to God… just doesn’t cut it. Telling me that the world was created in 7 days about 6000 years ago is insane. We may as well believe that Smurfs exist in the centre of the earth – there’s about as much evidence. Telling me that the world was populated by Adam’s kids inbreeding with each other and then that it was all wiped out to start again with four couples and a boatload of animals in Turkey… do you think I’m retarded? Are you really going to try and convince me that an intelligent being called GOD sits in a place we can’t see or find called HEAVEN? And this God who has the power to create everything that exists, is worrying about whether or not I have sex before marriage and drink too much and has an eternal war going on with an entirely evil angel called the DEVIL whom God himself created?! And the irony of it all is that Christians think that their religion is somehow more ‘advanced’ or ‘civilized’ than the pagan religions of old or the Greek pantheon of Olympian Gods who slept and argued with each other. It’s all the same: Hindu, Jew, Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, Baptist, Catholic, and Charismatic – it makes no difference. If you’re in a religion then you’re accepting a bunch of arbitrary rules, doctrines and bedtime stories as ultimate truth; you’re blindly following a group of leaders; and you’re living in fear of hell. On one hand you accept that the earth is round and that the square of the hypotenuse is equal to the sum of the squares of the other two sides, because it can be proven, yet on the other hand you you’re convinced about heaven and hell for which there is no proof, logic or reasonable argument except that someone wrote about it in a book thousands of years ago.

Conclusion

I love people, even religious people. Many of my good friends are religious people and they have no doubt about my positive feelings for them. I hate religion, because it corrupts and weakens and manipulates and controls, but most of all it’s plain rubbish. Yes, there are many religious organisations that do humanitarian work and help feed and clothe and house people – but I believe that the people doing this work would be doing so regardless of their religion because they’re generous and loving people. I believe the world would be a more loving, tolerant, peaceful and happy place if there were no religions at all.

I’ll be posting a lot more on this topic in days to come.

If you don’t recognize the guy in the picture, he’s my favourite DC superhero – Hal Jordan – otherwise known as Green Lantern. [Disclaimer: Hal Jordan and Green Lantern are the property of DC Comics and I use this picture for academic purposes only]

In short, the Green Lanterns are an intergalactic peace keeping force, kinda like the U.N. but… uber!! Each GL wears a ring that allows them to do just about anything (we’ll come back to that later), given to them by the Guardians of the universe, who are short, blue, immortals who live at the centre of the universe and keep it all together. Hal Jordan patrols “our” sector of the universe and is one of three or so GLs from Earth. He has also been part of the more well known ‘Justice League of America’ from time to time helping the likes of Superman, Batman and Wonder woman keep Americans everywhere safe.

As you may have guessed I’m a comic superhero fan and have been since childhood. I especially love the comics where superheroes fight together in teams, each one using his (or her) unique abilities to thwart the enemies of mankind. Green Lanterns are my favourite characters because of what their unique ability is – willpower! Without the rings they wear, the Lanterns are just ordinary beings without super strength, speed or any other special meta-traits, but wearing their rings they’re the most powerful force in the universe.

The way the rings work is that the bearer exerts their will and imagination and the ring complies with green construct energy. In simple English, if Hal Jordan wants a Rhinoceros to charge over the enemy he simply thinks about it, imagines it, and wills it into being – next thing you know a green Rhinoceros emerges from the ring, takes physical form and charges off. The only thing that limits a green lantern is their will and imagination.

I believe that this same dynamic applies to all people. We might not have rings of power to fly around with but we certainly have the same ability to change our circumstances through will and imagination. I’ve seen people with no formal education become hugely successful because they wielded their will and imagination against all odds. Your will allows you to tap personal resources that usually lie dormant inside you. Imagination allows you to conceive the impossible before anyone else believes it could be real. Long before we put a man on the moon someone imagined that it could be done and exerted his will to make it happen.

So what is will? How do we wield it?

Will is the unyielding desire to achieve, do or see something happen. In order to want something you need a picture in your head, that’s where imagination comes in. But we all know that just wanting something doesn’t make it happen by default – and that’s where ‘wielding’ comes in! Here are 3 things you’ll need to wield your will:

1. Determination. The word I’m really looking for here is the Afrikaans word “Deursettingsvermoe”. This word is rich with meaning and speaks of stamina, tenacity and follow-through. If you really want something badly enough you’re going to have to get off your couch and apply yourself with tenacity, determination and follow-through.
2. Courage. I’ll say it again – fear is the biggest problem we all have. The Green Lanterns call it “Parallax”. You will have to overcome your fear and face your critics, your inadequacies and your inhibitions if you’re going to have success in life.
3. Focus. It’s great to be able to shoot green uber-beams around but they’re useless if they don’t hit the target. Decide what you want (what you’re trying to do) and stick to it. Don’t get distracted. Don’t get lazy. Don’t get discouraged. Write it down. Stick it on your wall. Remind yourself about it every day. Get a friend to remind you too.

I’ll see you in space sector 24156. Happy hunting.

Personality profiling has recently become popular again with generation Y moving into the workplace. Generation X had a natural distaste for anything that they perceived to be “boxing” them into a particular mould. (I’ll be writing a few articles on the generations soon). Anyway, you just need to get on Facebook to find any number of “profiling tools” that claim to reveal what kind of person, lover, parent, friend, etc… you are. I have been fairly impressed with some of them and fairly appalled by others. The reality is that any type of profiling can be harmful if used incorrectly. Some people “wield” their profiling tools like weapons and end up destroying the self esteem of the gullible or leading people onto paths that are not suited to them. Personality profiling should never be used to make the trainer or facilitator feel somehow powerful and in control, or to convince people that they have no choice and are merely hapless consequences of their genetics or some “mystical” force in the universe.

Having said all that may lead you to believe that I’m against profiling… quite the opposite! The foundation of all my training for over 15 years has been personality profiling. I believe that, if used correctly and maturely, such tools can be of enormous benefit to people. I have personally tested thousands of people in many countries and have learned a great deal about how personality traits impact our everyday lives. Understanding your personality traits helps you understand many other things about your life like:

• Why people react to you the way they do
• Why you “get along” with some people easily and judge others harshly before they’ve even had a conversation with you
• Why you sometimes feel like you have a “split” personality and seem to want contradictory things
• Why you married someone that seems entirely opposite to you (and probably is)
• Why you have that particular response to things over and over again
• Why you are drawn to a particular career choice

And the list goes on…

Understanding these things is an enormous catalyst for healing relationships, working in teams, making intelligent career choices and making peace with yourself, among other things.

When assessing your personality it is important to use a tested and accurate tool with a knowledgeable and wise facilitator. Don’t believe the results of all the free quizzes and horoscopes you find on the web or in magazines – this will have a negative effect on your life and leave you confused about who you really are.

I use the four-quadrant system that was originally conceived by Hippocrates over 2000 years ago and has been refined and perfected ever since. The “D.I.S.C.” test is a remake of the same system and is currently doing the rounds in corporate companies around the world quite successfully. Another system I have great respect for is the Myers Briggs profile which effectively determines which side of the scale you tend to fall on four scales: Extroversion/Introversion; Sensing/Intuition; Thinking/Feeling and Judgement/Perception. My critique of that particular system is that there are too many potential results. It then becomes too easy to score differently each time you do the test and therefore diminishes the validity of the results, (although mine has always been constant).

I take a simpler approach. Rather than doing a test and getting a very particular profile “set in stone” on a piece of paper, my test produces a graph with a “pattern”. The pattern indicates which traits you demonstrate more than others, and then we have some fun conversations and activities around the results. My test looks at three scales being: Introversion vs. Extroversion; Thinking vs. Emotion and Tasks vs. People. The point of the exercise is not to tell you that you can’t change or be whatever you want to be, but rather to help you realize how you’ve got to where you are and what natural strengths you have and what potential blind spots you need to be aware of in the future.

Here is a very simple list of the four “Styles” and some of their key traits. You will find things you can relate to in all four quadrants but will more than likely realize that most of your behavioural traits lie in one or two of the styles.